“To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.”
These were the vows Heather and I took over eight years ago when we united in marriage. “In sickness and in health” stand out to me. I cannot comprehend why so many husbands disregard those five words, “IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH!!!” If your wife is not feeling well, you NEED to support her; it’s your obligation.
When Life Gets Hard
From the bible, Ephesians 5:22, “Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it… So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church… For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh“.
Maybe if you in your flesh felt like she does in her flesh, you’d think and act differently. When my wife was sick, I didn’t truly understand how she was feeling or what she was going through. I just knew that she needed my full support… financial, emotional and physical.
When we first got married, Heather and I were doing pretty well. We both had decent corporate jobs and a loving little Jack Russell (soon to be a second) while living in northern California. In a short period of time, we managed to pay off all the debt we incurred from our move from NJ to CA, and were able to start putting some away for our future while we purchased a house.
Shortly after we exchanged our vows, life hit us pretty hard. We had a number of stressful occurrences in a very short period of time, consisting of the death of my father and Heather’s step-father, a job loss, the purchase of the previously aforementioned house, and the economy taking a turn for the worse, among many other things.
During this time, Heather’s health started to suffer. My initial thoughts were, “go catch a workout, you’ll feel better.” That’s our mindset as men, but it’s not necessarily what your wife needs.
Heather was going from doctor to doctor, specialist to specialist, seeking answers, but kept coming up empty. She was told, “It’s allergies”, or “it’s nothing”, or “it’s in your head.” Looking at the picture below, does it look like it was in her head? I don’t…
When Life Seemingly Keeps Throwing You Curve Balls
For over a year and a half, the medical system constantly misdiagnosed her, sending her into a physical and emotional tailspin, to the point that she had to leave her new job because she couldn’t strum up the energy to even get out of bed. Sure, health insurance was paying for some of it, but who cares. Not only was it not helping, but it almost cost us her life.
Then, the economy hit harder and I lost my job too. But there was a light… Heather, with her type A personality, not taking the answers she was given for face value, continued to research her issues, implement things on our own from our own professional background in nutrition and wellness, and access natural practitioners trying to piece together solutions.
One of the many natural practitioners we accessed on this journey to try to piece together solutions, happened to be 3,000 miles away and we would need for Heather to travel, and stay there for an undetermined amount of days to try different natural treatments. At the time we couldn’t afford it. (Oh, and by the way, we were losing our house at the time too) Not really understanding what was going on, or what this practitioner was going to do, my response was, “We can’t afford not to.”
We bled our savings and threw her on a plane, set her up in a hotel, and she spent thirteen days at his office. He diagnosed her with Hashimoto’s, chronic fatigue, partial lupus, eczema, systemic candida and liver toxicity, among other things. How did all the medical doctors miss this stuff? Answer, they don’t understand where to look.
And, this was just the BEGINNING of her restoration journey, which would require her to seek further treatment from natural practitioners for the next year and a half to piece together solutions, and also invest to return to school to become a nutritionist professionally.
She returned home from her trip, sought care from more natural practitioners to continue to find resolve for her energy, her chronic skin issues, her metabolism, and overall health. We would even have to invest in her becoming a Functional Nutritionist professionally for her to create complete resolve in her body, literally having to come full circle to become a professional which leads us to the work we do serving others today.
In the end, we invested, in excess of $60,000 to discover all the pieces necessary to restore her health & it would lead us to our discover our e3 Energy Evolved System to resolving these imbalances in mind, body and spirit completely.
And, what we discovered on that journey is there is a lot of strategy being missed in the approach of doctors and natural practitioners that can significantly hasten transformation in the body to make people’s journey more cost & time effective, and we had these aha-moments along Heather’s journey about more areas that were being missed yet because of our former work in competitive athletics, nutrition & psychology, which is out of the scope of work of most doctors and natural practitioners.
So, in hindsight, while frustrating & expensive at the time, it led us down the path to the work we do today restoring thyroid, autoimmune and metabolic function naturally & powerfully for women and men around the world, right from their very own homes regardless of country or location. This costly journey to us, that we found lacked significant important strategy in some ways to help people restore quickly, is exactly why we began our e3 Energy Evolved mission.
If any of this sounds like your journey, and you’re tired of traveling all over creation and the money and time it requires for you to do so, contact our team here to set up a Functional Nutrition & Metabolic Restoration Consultation with our Functional Nutritionist & Diagnostic Nutritionist team, and learn how you can receive life-changing transformation with our lab-based results-driven programs without ever leaving your home.
You Don’t Give Up
Little did we know at that time that aside from all these health and education expenses to find her way back to wellness, our food bill would almost double and we were looking at a good sum of money every month towards nutraceuticals, none of which insurance would cover (because it actually works), and none of which was in our budget. But, that’s what our credit cards, cashing out investments if we have them to access, and what our savings are for.
They’re not for big screen TV’s, vacations, fancy clothes, house remodels, etc. Credit cards are for emergencies, and this was, in our opinion, an emergency that was threatening her existence. And guess what. If we hadn’t taken the risk, my wife would likely not be here today.
Fast forward 6 years, over $40K+ in out-of-pocket medical expenses, and $100’s of thousands of dollars more in education, training and business expenses to be here today to help others around the world out of the same pitfalls in health, and a ton of praying, & we’ve created a mission to help other women offering lab-based bio-individualized programs to restore thyroid, autoimmune, and metabolic health naturally from the peace & comfort of their own homes, so that you don’t have to go through the chaotic and financially disruptive battles what we went through.
Unfortunately, for many of you, the biggest thing standing in your way of healing is the second half of your flesh, your husband.
Here are some of the questions I’ve been asked by many of the husbands of the wives that are our Private Distance e3 Energy Evolved “e3 Restore” Members Online, when their wives comes to us for thyroid, autoimmune & metabolic consultation:
- Is what my wife’s going through real? (Yes it is)
- Why doesn’t my wife want to be intimate with me? (She’s not comfortable in her own skin, her hormones are in disarray, and she just doesn’t feel “sexy”. Allow her to correct that and she will want the same.)
- She doesn’t look sick, how do I know it’s not just in her head? (In many cases, by the time her illness shows itself on the outside, her illness is just that much more progressed. If she doesn’t feel well, she’s not well and needs your support.)
- The medical doctors ran some tests and everything’s normal. (If she has symptoms, everything is not normal. The medical doctors are trained to run certain tests looking for certain markers, but don’t spend any time asking questions of your wife, or even looking at the underlying causes of her health complaints)
A Message To Husbands From Damian
To all the husbands out there… It doesn’t matter whether or not you understand, or even believe what your wife is going through is legitimate. What matters is that you support her in every way possible, and yes, it is legit.
Men and women are built completely different. Women take on more stress than we can fathom. They’re taking care of the house, tending to the kids, preparing meals for the family… oh, and maybe even working a full-time job too. And that whole child-bearing thing… It takes from her more than you can imagine. With all that women are faced with today, and other forms of metabolic stressors that most people are not truly aware of that are challenging their bodies systemically, it’s no wonder so many have thyroid, adrenal, digestive, immune and skin problems.
Rather than let your wife tailspin into a state of chronic fatigue which happened for Heather and was very dangerous at the end, which can happen easily for any woman left in a state of these chronic imbalances too long over time, man up and support her. Help her with the cooking, dishes and laundry. Ask her if there’s something she needs (and ladies, don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. We’re not mind-readers, and to be honest, we’re kind of lazy when it comes to this stuff).
One thing I’ve learned over the last 7 years is, try to help out more.
One thing Heather’s learned during that same time period is to not to be afraid to ask for more help.
Help to give your wife the tools she needs to better her health.
It’s your obligation as a husband in a committed marriage to support your family including your wife, not just your children, as a man in what she needs to thrive.
If you need leadership to restore your thyroid, autoimmune, and metabolic health naturally, and you’d like to do it cost effectively right from the comfort of your own home with the leadership of a team that offers you the wisdom of personal experience, professional experience & strategic, powerful programs that offer you measurable physical results for your investment in specific periods of time, we have limited spots available throughout the year for acceptance into our life-changing e3 Restore Program, co-led by both my wife Functional Nutritionist, US National Level Natural NPC Figure Competitor & Mind-body Psychology Coach, Heather Dube´& myself, Diagnostic Nutritionist, Damian Dube´.
We have forever changed the lives & transformed the outcomes of our online e3 Restore Members naturally all over the world right from their own home here, members who have often sought help and solutions with no resolve for 15+ years from multiple doctors & natural practitioners, before seeking both functional wellness & metabolism resolution from our leadership program with proven results.
For enrollment consideration & to see if you’re a good fit for our e3 Restore Program, please contact our team for more information on how to schedule an initial Functional Nutritionist & Metabolic Restoration Consultation for a clinical assessment & labs review evaluation.
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